I am myself very guilty of yelling “careful” to my son every five minutes. He is a very active boy and he takes every chance to do smth risky that makes your heart stop.
I haven’t thought about it, but surely there are many ways of telling a child to watch out, than the trite, old “careful”. I believe strongly that how we talk to and treat our children has a great impact ot how they will turn out to be as adults. It is just that among everything else in the daily life, I honestly tend to forget seeking alternative methods to regular disputes that may appear at home. Instead it seems easier to just fall back into old habits and handling challenges on auto pilot, despite the fact that the methods used may be very contraproductive at times. The good side of my parenthood is that I know I make mistakes and I want to be better, I try, as often as I have the chance (and the memory for it) to seek for information about how to think differently and do things differently in order to be the best possible parent for my boy.
One of my latest Google searchs for “tips to stop nagging your kids” resulted in the discover of these alternatives to “careful” (@thebackwoodsmama) and I thought these were great tips for parents who wants to foster awareness:
- Notice how…these rocks are slippery, that branch is strong.
- Do you see…the poison ivy, your friends nearby.
- Try moving…your feet carefully, quickly, strongly.
- Try using your…arms, hans, feet, legs.
- Can you hear…the rushing water, the singing birds, the wind?
- Do you feel…stable on that rock, the heat from the fire?
- Are you feeling…scared, excited, tired, safe?